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Ideas for Self-Nurturing--Fill Up Your Well of Reserve!

Go ahead. Unleash your giggling exuberance! Think of children splashing around in a swimming pool or discovering a FUN activity! Has it been too long since YOU giggled?

If you're feeling drooped, perhaps you have delight deficiency syndrome and you need to spend some time on you! You may have lost perspective and your positive attitude may have slipped south.

Sometimes we humans fall into a funk and feel overwhelmed. That's the time when we need self-nurturing and perhaps we would benefit from not being so uptight...from letting go and slowing down.

We might benefit from watching "The playfulness and joy of a dog, its unconditional love and readiness to celebrate life at any moment often contrast sharply with the inner state of the dog's owner--depressed, anxious, burdened by problems, lost in thought, not present in the only place and only time there is: Here and Now. One wonders: living with this person, how does the dog manage to remain so sane, so joyous?" *



Nurture your health! Celebrate well-being!

Vitality/aliveness/well-being is more than a number on a scale!

Ask yourself: What’s NOT wrong?

 Come to the banquet table of life. Learn to nourish yourself in ways that provide lasting nourishment to the soul (heart). Practice the recipes for nourishing the heart.

 Learn the art of cultivating joy. Ask yourself, what nourishes joy in me? What nourishes joy in others?

Do I nourish joy in myself and others enough?

Do I enjoy the precious jewels that I have?

   Daily Check-in:

v      Notice if there’s suffering (conditioned patterns that don’t work well).

v      See a cause

v      See a way out, and a path that shows the way out.

v      Practice the path

                                 Ideas for Self-Nurturing Activities    

                                                              Circle FUN ones!    * = FREE)

Listen to my favorite music

Enjoy a long, warm bubble bath

* Go for a walk

* Share a hug with a loved one

* Relax outside

* Practice feeling contented

* Physical activity (of my choice)

* Spiritual prayer

*Attend a caring support group

* Practice diaphragmatic breathing

* Do stretching exercises

* Reflect on my positive qualities:

  “ I am…”

* Watch the sunrise/sunset

* Laugh

* Concentrate on a relaxing scene

Create a collage representing

  “the real me”

Receive a massage

* Reflect on: “I appreciate….”

Write my thoughts and feelings

  in a personal journal

Attend a favorite athletic event

Do something adventurous!

Read a special book or magazine

* Sing, hum, dance or whistle a happy tune!

Play a musical instrument

* Spiritual meditation

Work with plants (gardening)

Learn a new skill

See a special play, movie or concert

Work out with weights

Ride a bike or motorcycle

Make myself a nutritious meal

Draw/paint a picture

* Swim, float, wade, relax in a

   pool, or on the beach

Do aerobics/dance

Visit a special place I enjoy

* Smile & say : “I love myself.”

* Take time to smell the roses

   (and other flowers I enjoy!)

* Imagine myself achieving my

   goals and dreams

Go horseback riding

Enjoy a gourmet cup of herbal

   tea or coffee

Participate in a favorite sport,

    game, recreation

* Practice a relaxation exercise

* Practice  the art of forgiveness

* Reflect on “my most enjoyable


* Enjoy a relaxing nap

Visit a museum/art gallery

* Practice yoga

Relax in a whirlpool /sauna

Enjoy a cool, refreshing glass of

   water or juice

* Enjoy the beauty of nature

* Count my blessings: “I am

   thankful for…”

* Play as I did as a child

* Star gaze- stay up late, get up


* Window shop

* Daydream

* Tell myself the loving words I

   want to hear from others

Attend a special workshop

Go sailing/paddleboating

Reward myself with a special

   gift I can afford

Take myself on a vacation

Create with clay/pottery

* Practice positive affirmations

* Pet an animal

* Watch my favorite TV show

* Reflect on my successes: “I


Make a bouquet of flowers

* Relax: watch the clouds

Make myself something nice

* Visit a park/woods/forest

Read  positive, motivational


* Reflect on: “What I value most

   in life…”

Phone a special friend

Go on a picnic in a beautiful


* Practice feeling awe for life

Treat myself to a nutritious meal

   at a favorite restaurant

Participate in a hobby

* Discover a new place

* Hug a tree!

* “Meow” with a cat; “ bark “

  with a dog, “chirp” with a bird !

* Create my own list of self-

   nurturing activities

            Have FUN!!!

For a PDF version of these ideas: Bob's Ideas for Self-Nurturing.pdf

Frolic around:



  • Women’s Comfort Book, by Jennifer Louden, (1992), Harper-Collins, NY This book is terrific! It includes HUNDREDS OF practical suggestions on how to begin caring for yourself. It includes a thorough section on "self-care at a glance." and self-care newsletter:

  • Self Parenting-The Complete Guide To Your Inner Conversations, by Dr. John K. Pollard, III, (1987), Generic Human Studies Publishing This book includes lots of fun pictures and explores terrific journaling techniques to explore connecting with your inner emotional self and changing the "feeling tone" of your relationship with yourself.

  • The Only Diet There Is, Sondra Ray explains in her book, that if we forgive the past, drop negative thoughts and resentments, stop being victims—we drop our fat as well. She asserts that as we release our negativity, we release excess weight in our minds, hearts, and in our bodies. I used this book extensively and found all of the exercises and affirmations to be quite helpful. Copyright date is 1981 by Celestial Arts Publishers. You'll find it at

  • Living Juicy-Daily Morsels For Your Creative Soul, & The Bodacious Book of Succulence by SARK (1994), Celestial Arts, Berkeley, California. For a catalog, call:  (800) 841-BOOK. These books (and SARK'S Web site) are SO MUCH FUN and are delightfully colorful! at Plantet SARK!

Take Time for Your Life: A Personal Coach's 7-Step Program for Creating the Life You Want : Cheryl Richardson : ISBN 0767902076Take Time for Your Life, Life Makeovers, Stand Up for Your Life, by Cheryl Richardson, (1999 – 2002), Broadway Books, New York, NY.

Take Time for Your Life: A Personal Coach's 7-Step Program for Creating the Life You Want provides a program for creating the life that is in HARMONY, and allows you to BALANCE THE LOVE AND SUPPORT THAT YOU GIVE TO OTHERS WITH THE CARE YOU GIVE TO YOURSELF! Gives 52 practical & inspiring ways to improve your life one week at a time. 

These books are excellent! Electronic newsletter at:  


On-Line Resources:

For a wonderful story by Robert Munsch, called Love You Forever found at

For other stories:  and hear him at (works with a RealPlayer)


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Things To Nurture Yourself With and a Little Bit of Humor Too...
See also: From Empowering Caregivers

Fun In Recovery! from Sober Recovery:

*Stillness Speaks, (2003), by Eckhart Tolle, Namaste Publishing and New World Library. From the Introduction: "The only function of a spiritual teacher is to help you remove that which separates you from the truth of who you already are and what you already know in the depth of your being." Enjoy discovering your inner being! See also Practicing The Power of Now, (1999), by Eckhart Tolle.
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Namasté means, "I honor the place in you in which the entire universe dwells, I honor the place in you which is of love, of truth, of light and of peace, when you are in that place in you and I'm in that place in me, we are one."

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