Why Try My Approach?
by Bob Wilson BS, DTR
1. Why would someone consider trying my approach? Can’t they just go on a diet? Many have been on quick-fix diets or programs that are mainly short term and don’t view their eating and activity choices holistically, nor in a realistic way.
a. Other approaches generally do not teach adequate skills for maintaining weight loss or how to cope during life’s challenges and crises.
b. Diets focus on exterior rigid guidelines rather than teaching a person to listen to their own body and emotions for guidance.
c. Diets alone do not provide the self-evaluation needed to explore the root causes and reasons that led to the extra weight. Consequently, people frequently gain back the weight they lost.
d. Many have tried programs with improbable promises of quick, large, and lasting weight loss and quick changes…all with NO work involved…it’s always easy! Right?
e. Today gastric bypass surgery is very popular: What I’ve discovered is that just changing the size of someone’s stomach does NOT change the hungers they are trying to fill, nor teach lasting behavior changes.
f. Most other approaches don’t promote effective self-management skills nor teach us how to manage various environments.
g. Most lack referrals to appropriate supportive services (physical therapist, mental health, support groups, sleep evaluation, etc.) and have myopic, exclusive program focus.
h. People who are ready for my approach are…PEOPLE ARE SICK AND TIRED OF FEELING SICK AND TIRED! They’re ready. Are you ready?
2. What are my Playbook and Website really about? What skills will a person learn? I have collected all the best wisdom and tools and put them together on one site and my Playbook and site.
The key message for the Playbook and site for each person:
Through mindful and self-nurturing living you’ll feast on a diet of holistic self-care!
Gradually you come to know and respect yourself.
You learn to… Plant the Garden of Your Life with Seeds of Well-Being
And then gradually you…Reap Your Harvest of Health and Friskiness!
In my Playbook and site, you will get to the root of your life and weight problem by identifying thoughts, feelings, and lifestyle patterns and other factors that influence your eating and activity choices that you make. You will learn 12 Essential Skills that allow you to:
WHAT SKILLS WILL YOU LEARN?
3. Who is Bob? Why are you qualified to write Lighter & Free from the Inside Out and have your website BALANCED WEIGHT MANAGEMENT.COM? As a tour guide, I know the territory! I’ve lost about 250 pounds and have kept it off for over 38 years and am drug and alcohol-free for over 22 years. Before my lifestyle behaviors were out of control and unhealthy. I knew how to be fat and out-of-balance…but I didn’t know how to be healthy.
So, How did I make lasting changes? I found that success at achieving a healthier life and weight, permanently, requires learning a series of new life skills. (You can check out my story on my site and Playbook). In my career as a dietetic professional, I’ve worked in hospitals as clinical DTR helping sick people, and since 1982 have been in the field of health promotion/education and done numerous outreaches, including cooking classes, and nutritionist at eating disorders clinic, and received award of excellence in practice in Oregon and nationally by American Dietetic Association. I’ve seen about 75 people every week for the last 20 years and helped them manage their challenges at achieving a healthier life and weight. I’ve written TONS key articles on my website and my book with positive, practical, and helpful information so people can lose weight and keep it off. They include helpful tools, tips, and resources to manage life-long well-being.
a. So, I’ve been there & understand: 1. how one gets stuck, 2. what that feels like, 3. how to get unstuck, 4. what the obstacles & barriers will be, 5. how to overcome them.
b. I know what it feels like to be fat and have multiple addictions; I know the path out of hell, into personal freedom!
4. Who is the Playbook and site for? Individuals and whole families who struggle with managing life’s challenges effectively without harmful habits (the use of food, alcohol, drugs, spending, over working) as a response to inner overwhelm and pain.
a. Most do function quite well in life, they are successful, passionate, intelligent, and overweight—they may have lots to lose. They are not broken; their life works well on many levels….and they can’t seem to manage their weight!
5. So what are people’s challenges? Why haven’t they been successful long-term? Many are caretakers for other people (professionals: nurses, teachers, administrators, sectaries, and have many family commitments as well)
a. Many are overcommitted and overwhelmed by life and have developed the habit of deferring self-care and …
b. Many have struggled with weight and addictions all of their life, have tried multiple diets and programs, but have not achieved lasting success—they don’t know how to care for or nurture themselves without using food or other substances.
c. Frequently they don’t eat or live their lives with much awareness.
d. Most don’t know practical, fun, and healthy lifestyle skills: they don’t have many self-management skills or have much self-awareness; their self-talk & esteem and nurturing may need some help. Another KEY is to find ways to set limits and live life in a balanced way, which is extremely difficult for them.
e. Most people easily fall back into OLD patterns and don’t have the tools to help them get back on track.
6. My primary goal is to empower you to become a loving caregiver to your body, mind, and spirit—in effect, to learn how to nurture yourself from the inside out.
How do I help a person explore and learn these Essential Skills? What’s the process? Well you start where you are, because you can’t be anywhere else! My approach is very eclectic; numerous techniques, tools, and resources (including my own Website and Playbook). The KEY skill to set your intention for your life and to develop compassion and kindness for yourself. I’ll show you how in a minute.
i. You feel empowered as you come up with your own positive and practical plans. You go inside to chart your own course. As you chart your course; you will discover skill power, not will power! You’ll use a daily personal check-in to find answers.
i. You get a plan
ii. Put it into motion
iii. Check back in: What worked? What didn’t? Refine the plan. Try again.
iv. It’s a process. You figure out how to do it. Celebrate every step. It’s all learning.
· Remember the bottom line, to transform yourself you must come to know yourself—the factors that have led you to weigh what you do and to begin to do a compassionate and wise self-assessment, and then explore skills that can allow you to make lasting changes in our lives. Realistically, this process of exploration takes time—for many people 1-3 years…or more! It took awhile to get where you are at now, and it will take awhile to make changes.
· You set yourself free to explore all of life’s possibilities. You step back and take a peek at your lives. You notice how various factors influence the choices you make. You practice accepting yourself, taking inventory and move forward, step-by-step. There are NO failures, it’s all learning!
· I help you find the inspiration to take the first step AND to keep going!
· You choose to be healthy not because the MD said to, but because you deeply love and respect yourself (just as you do many other people in your lives). You want to free your heart and mind from personal distress.
· You learn to release self- judgment and …
· You’ll learn to become your own mindful and compassionate personal lifestyle coach or guide by following this process.
· Out-of-balance living is transformed through compassionate self-care.
· Gradually you discover how to balance self-care with service to others, and you nurture an unconditional friendship with yourself.
· I also encourage you to take note of and appreciate your many talents and successes and take a regular inventory & notice joys and blessings in your life! Ask yourself: What’s NOT wrong?!
7. What kind of feedback have you gotten from people who have read the Playbook and website?
8. Final thoughts that I’d like to share with my readers today?
So in summary, you can see my website Balanced Weight Management and my book Lighter & Free from the Inside Out are about cultivating a healthy and frisky life!
Everything is based on the truth that:
What You Plant Is What You Get!
Your Moment-by-Moment Choices Shape Your Life.
Consider that You Create Your Life with Each Choice You Make.
Discover How to Be a Skillful Gardener In Your Own Life.
gradually…Reap Your Harvest of Health and Friskiness!
At this time in the world you can see how important your healthfulness is to all of life.
And as Ghandi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
It’s been a pleasure to share these ideas with you.
I have complete confidence that you can
become lighter and free from the inside out!
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