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Ways to Learn to Love Your Body
Here are some ways to make peace with and
appreciate your wondrous physical being. I encourage you to take some time to
contemplate each point and allow yourself to grow a new appreciation for your
We are born in love with our bodies. Watch an
infant sucking their fingers and toes, not worrying about their body fat.
Imagine being so in love with your body.
Don’t compare your self to others. We
frequently feel that we can never measure up. Society makes matters worse by
worshiping an elusive fantasy body. Almost no one likes “the equipment they
have or the way it is arranged!” Appreciate the assortment of physiques that
sprinkle the earth!
Look at family photos. Find the beauty, love,
and values in those bodies and faces. Hold those close to your heart.
Be the expert on your body—challenge fashion
magazines, cosmetics industry, or weight tables. Appreciate yourself, just
as you are!
Think about your body as a tool. Create a
list of all the things you can do with it. Celebrate the fact that your body
has resisted your best attempt to kill it off and it still works!
Be aware of what your body does each day. It
is the instrument of your life, not an ornament for other’s enjoyment. Try
washing your teeth with your non-dominant hand. Try walking around your
house with your eyes closed. What do you learn about your bodies many parts?
Have your really appreciate your toes and fingers recently?
Create a list of people you admire who have
contributed to your life, your community, or the world. Was their appearance
important to their success?
Consider your body as a source of pleasure.
Think of all the ways it makes you feel good. Enjoy your body: stretch,
dance, walk, sing, take a bubble bath, get a massage, have a pedicure.
Affirm that your body is perfect just the way
it is. “I love myself as I am and as I am becoming.”
Remember that the body was designed to move. Reconnect with
your body. Find a method of exercise that you enjoy and do it regularly, not
to lose weight, but just to feel good. A walk in nature is especially
comforting, and nature is nonjudgmental. Do not force yourself to exercise;
allow yourself the opportunity to move.
As you go about your daily activities, walk
with your head high, with pride and confidence in yourself as a person, not
Count your blessings, not your blemishes.
Also use nurturing affirmations. They are a powerful way to change the way
you feel about your body. Put up signs in the mirrors, like, “I’m beautiful,
inside and out.” Find a part of your body that you like and accept. Write an
affirmation about it. For instance, “I love the ways that my eyes sparkle.”
Repeat the affirmation every day with enthusiasm. Believe it! After a few
weeks, you will come to know that what you are saying is true. Then move on
to another body part. Continue through all parts until you LOVE YOUR BODY!
Beauty is not just skin-deep. It is a
reflection of your whole self. Love and enjoy the person who is inside of
Every evening when your go to bed, thank your
body for what it has helped you do throughout the day.
What Does It Look Like When Things Are Going Well?
Be Happy and Contented!
Loving, Honoring, and Accepting the
Body You Have
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More resources at
for Web sites, live chats, news groups,
mailing lists, and other cool stuff in the areas of body image,
empowerment, eating, size acceptance
- Check out: Sizewise
http://www.sizewise.com/ There you will find a Web
directory and search engine.
Some topics: Health & Fitness, Looking Good!, Our Big Kids, Politics
of Size, Relationships, What's In Print?, Your World, Your Size,
Size Positive Links, Email Lists, Excellence Award Sites, The SWAN
- The Body Image
Workbook. Thomas F. Cash, Ph.D., Fine Communications, 1998
- The Don't Diet,
Live-it Workbook: Healing Food, Weight and Body Issues.
Andrea LoBue, and Marsea Marcus, Gurze Books, 1999